Amazing what a number and a word can do nowadays, huh? Type 50 Shades on top of any post and immediately everyone rushes to read and comment. I guess this will be my obligatory “50 Shades” post.
I haven’t read the books or seen the movie, so this won’t be a discussion of content, but rather a more general discussion on outlying topics.
As many of you know, I am a Christian man married to a beautiful woman. That said, marital consummation is a topic that is often… skirted in Christian circles. You know, knowing someone in the biblical sense is often spoken of in hushed tones. Churches are reluctant to speak of physical intimacy between husbands and wives.
My point? Christians, traditionally, have a hard time talking about sex.
Whew… I said it.
One positive aspect of 50 Shades mania has been that sex conversations have invited themselves into Christian circles. Instead of hiding behind a safety net of “behind closed doors,” Christians are having to face a culture that has deftly taken over the conversation on sex and sexuality. Christians are also beginning to be more vocal about things like domestic abuse and those trapped in the sex trade, which we should have been doing all along.
I wrote not long ago about the fear of having to give the talk. The culture we live in is not so reluctant. Our culture will talk about sex to whomever will sit still long enough to hear it, including children. Beliefs about sexuality put aside for one second, I want to say this: If the schools our children attend can talk about sex with them, why can’t we?
In some ways, I am glad that Christians are finally being dragged into conversations about sexuality: what’s normal, what’s acceptable, and what God’s intention for sex is. Many pastors, theologians, and non clergy people are seriously searching the Bible for answers – and this is a fantastic thing! For several years now, I’ve had to listen to a one-sided conversation that, for the most part, completely disregards the spiritual aspect of life.
A good starting resource for these conversations is a short book called Trust Us, They’ll Ask by Group Publishing.
Here’s the link to the Kindle Edition.